The honest part first
Here's the thing: if you want to use a lemon vibrator with a new partner, the conversation usually matters more than the object. Most people aren't scared of the device itself. They're scared of what it signals. Does this mean they're not enough? Are you bored already? Did I do something wrong?
None of that is true, and the sooner you clarify it, the sooner you can both relax and actually enjoy the experience.
Why the timing conversation happens so early now
It used to be that you'd wait months before mentioning toys. You'd drop hints. You'd hope they'd suggest it first. That's changed, and for good reason. When you're seeing someone new, sexual compatibility matters. Knowing how you each feel about clitoral vibrators or lemon sucker toys early on saves you from months of awkward dancing around it.
That doesn't mean bringing it up on date one. But it does mean you don't have to wait until year two either.
The setup conversation (before anything touches anyone)
The best time to mention it is after you've had sex a few times and things feel relaxed. Not in the middle of intimacy, not when clothes are being taken off. Pick a regular moment. Maybe you're cooking together, or driving, or literally any time when you're clothed and neither of you is triggered.
Your opening should be about you, not about them. "I've been thinking about something I'd like to try" lands better than "I want us to use this toy." The difference is small but real.
Then get specific without being clinical. "I really like using clitoral vibrators because the stimulation does something different for my body" is honest. "I want to explore external stimulation